When someone suggested I make custom items, I nearly passed out.
My throat tightened, heart started beating louder and blood pressure increased. The heat rose in my face to the top of my head, and I felt faint. My blood sugar dropped.
I had to sit. Wait. I was sitting.
Dizziness and cortisol were speeding through my muscles, the adrenalin wasn't released fast enough.
On the outside, I looked cool and collected.
Inside, my hearing went quiet and I just wanted to continue to block out the conversation without being rude. I wanted to rewind back a minute before the idea of custom work was suggested.
Don't we all (sometimes) want a rewind button?
Perfection and custom work are seriously unmeshed in my book. I want the work to be the best possible. Having multiple projects going at the same time helps me to not finish things, giving way to all kinds of time demands.
Okay, moving house is a big time demand, and eye surgeries, eye issues, and regular life does put a big dent into any free time; but, eventually I have to finish the projects.
Copious amounts of honing and polishing the work drag out the inevitable conclusion. I usually find fault with something, days, weeks, even years later. Laying out boundaries does not come into the solution. Humor does though.
I'm not perfect. When polishing and readjusting keeps the item from getting to its destination, it makes perfection a fault. The recipient doesn't see the imperfection, they only know they are waiting for the finished item to arrive. I'm usually a bit early, but for something I am so invested in, I will drag out the details, procrastinate, and refine, hone, and repeat.
Worry over what someone thinks or says is not productive, and you can always find a rogues gallery of critics. Those who receive the item matter. Those who don't understand the work, don't buy the work- don't matter. The old saying, "You can't please everyone all of the time, " is so true.
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Taking some wisdom to replace perfectionism procrastination and make a good habit includes: Polish to the best point possible. Get the work into the hands of those who want and appreciate the idea, time, effort, and expression. Enjoy the process and see it through to its end.
Using the best efforts available, "Finish the work."
Then let it go.
Are you a stress-free custom project maker? Do you enjoy custom work or do you like to follow your own path? Would you ever refuse a custom request?